Fear is a stealthy companion—always trying to find it’s way in—trying to discover your times of weakness, your areas of uncertainty. Would you like know how not to be controlled by Fear?
First of All, We ALL Have Fears
I’d like to talk about the fears that hold us back from being the best version of ourselves.
For me, Fear usually visits at night—lying in bed, the fears and worries surround me with nothing else to distract me from them. Fear always seems more real and undefeatable in the darkness.
But then, when I wake up and start moving about—having my coffee, sitting at my computer and commencing work on my goals for the day–the fear the worry dissipate, and I feel as though I can conquer the world once again!
I’m sure many of you have felt like that…and this is to let you know that you are certainly NOT alone.
Why Fear Needs to be Controlled
Fears control us in ways we never realize, unacknowledged and more powerful because of their unknown origins.
Fears stop us from following our dreams, from taking risks, from seeking adventure, from speaking in public, doing Facebook LIVE broadcasts, from starting a new business venture. We procrastinate and find distractions because of fear. Because of Fear, we can be seized with constant worry.
And yet, these fears are merely illusions. They are constructs of our own mind. Often, we aren’t sure from where they first came. The fear of heights, the fear of thunderstorms, the fear of driving at night—what happened (or what have we worried would happen) to make us feel these unwanted emotions?
What I do realize is that confronting these fears head on is usually the best way to defeat them. From personal experience, I know that can be true.
Some of MY Fears
I used to be afraid to drive in snowy weather. Then, my husband and I moved to Wyoming (where they get horizontal snow, by the way), and I was attending College. My choice was to drive in the snow or miss class. Well, my choice was clear, so I drove to class every day. In doing so day after day, my level of fear became less and less because my level of competence became much greater. After a while, I wasn’t afraid any more. I WILL say, honestly, that I still don’t LIKE to drive in the snow, but I’m not afraid!
This is also true of doing Facebook LIVE broadcasts. The first time, even though I have experience being in front of the camera, I was almost paralyzed with fear. But, I knew my Mentor was expecting me to complete this assignment, and I didn’t want to disappoint him. So, I did it—it wasn’t very good and it wasn’t very long, but I got it done. And now I find that, having done several of them, I actually look forward to doing them. Your track may be shorter or longer, and that’s all right, too. It’s only in the “doing” that the fears will be defeated.
Think of Fear as a Cloud
Think of your fear as a cloud. The cloud floats away, like anything else. It’s nothing to run from. It’s just a passing cloud.
So, watch the cloud of fear arise, acknowledge it, confront it, and watch it float away like any other thought. Then step into the sunshine of the present moment, feeling calm now that the cloud has passed and feeling ready to take on the next challenge.
Once you develop this skill of confronting these fears and trusting in your abilities, you will be equipped to deal with whatever life throws your way—or whatever you choose to pursue. There is no need to be afraid—only excited and looking forward to the future.
Now, I must say at this point, that sometimes, taking the aforementioned steps may not be enough. There is no shame in acknowledging that we might need more help, and that’s where a professional should be consulted. There are several modalities that could be considered—talking to a counselor, a psychologist, or even a professionally trained hypnosis therapist could be of great assistance.
My Fear of Becoming an Entrepreneur
I also had to face the fear of being an online Entrepreneur. I had no experience, barely understood how to work a computer, yet I wanted my own business. I starting searching and researching, and I was lucky enough to come upon the person who became my Mentor and now, Partner, as well.
I was introduced to Mr. Dean Holland, founder of InternetProfits, and when I say he changed my life, it is not an exaggeration. I found my purpose and my future, all in the same place, and you can, too.
If you would like to meet Dean, as well as several other successful clients from InternetProfits, please click HERE. You will be pleasantly surprised at what you learn.
Well, now I've shared a few of my Fears–what are yours? If you've conquered a fear, how did you do it? I'd love to know–let me know in the comments!
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Until next time, here’s wishing you,
Love, Light and Abundance,